Well for most campus students, our experiences in the love industry have made us believe that love is just but an illusion, something that when given deeper thought doesn’t really exist and if it does, then it sure is only meant for a few individuals.
Campus heartbreaks have made students believe that there is nothing more to life and love. I think if you have gone through one of these then you will probably agree with me that a heartbreak can totally change you and your beliefs.
The good news however is that love surely exists and if we believe then we are all going to one day find love and have those happily ever after endings. This is why the Fanaka Arts Theater brings to you ‘ Let’s play a love scene’, a staged musical that will inspire you to find love or staying love. Join them at the Kenya National Theater as they narrate a beautiful love story of two lovebirds who never dreamt of falling in love but like fate had it they were meant for each other.
Love is such a beautiful thing. It needs to be felt by everyone. Let us all come together and share love.
I remember when I was joining campus two years ago my mother told me to be very careful with these campus boys. You see these words did not bear as much weight to me back then as they should have. I was 18 and thought I had experienced it all and infact knew well how to handle these boys.
Several months into the system, those words slowly started sinking in. I could see boys walking along the corridors of the female hostels during the late hours of the night. Ladies would leave their hostels and spend nights in the male hostels. At first it never really occurred to me what was going on until I came to learn of these three words; exile, sleepovers and sex. I specifically remember one night when my friend had to seek refuge in my room after she was exiled by her roommate who was hosting her boyfriend for the night.
I thought I was being quick to conclude at first but campus comes with a lot of sexual desires. More often than not we only realise the bitterness of this forbidden fruit when it is too late. Forget money, love or even influence, sex is evidently the number one motivator of these campus love affairs. Where exactly does this desire and urge for sex come from when it is clearly stated in our religious books that fornication is a sin? Share your thoughts and help me understand.
For the past couple of weeks, I have interacted with a lot of people in an attempt to find out what they have to say about relationships in campus. You see at first I was of the belief that these relationships never really prosper. I mean nobody was going to convince me otherwise.
I must say that speaking to different people has made me realize that everybody’s story is different. These experiences have made me almost want to pull down my previous posts where I had firmly stated that these relationships are just but a waste of time. I say this because I might have been a victim of a failed campus love affair and I must mention that this experience changed me completely. It probably might have been my inspiration to share my thoughts.
However, today I am glad to tell a story of two campus students, a love story that to me seems to be the best of all I have ever heard of and even seen. Two young souls who were definitely created for each other and from the very moment they met, they knew they would stick by each other to the end no matter what.
Despite the challenges that come with joining campus, they have stood strong through it all and to them their five years together seems like nothing because they still have a lifetime to accomplish. Yes, everyone has a different story and love does flourish in campus.
For many, relationships in campus have never really worked out. The good news is, some actually do work. Njeri Njoroge a third year student tells you what you need to know.
Q: How long have you been in a relationship?
I’ve been in a relationship for two years
Q: Tell us something about your boyfriend and how you guys do this?
My boyfriend is a very understanding person, he loves me and our relationship has grown strong over the years and we have grown to understand each other. The fact that we are in the same class makes it even better because I feel that the relationship has time to grow and connect better.
Q: How has your life changed since you started dating your boyfriend?
My life has changed so much because right now I have someone who pushes me academically. You know since we are in the same class we do assignments together, we basically do so much academic work together.
Q: As a student and the fact that you are in the same class, do you encounter some challenges in your relationship?
Yes, we do encounter some challenges because it’s normal for every relationship to have challenges. Nothing good comes easy.
Q: There are very many failed relationships out here in campus. Its never easy for people out here and most people have actually given up. What do you have to tell them?
Relationships are hard. Nothing is easy and people fail. But the most and important thing for any lasting relationship is understanding. But also let us not overlook the fact that there are people who are just not compatible. So if it gets to that point then just leave it. It’s not worth it.
Growing up in a family filled with love, it has always been my my belief that all relationships should be built on love.
The two years in campus however has taught me that there is more than just love. I mean the kind of love affairs that our young folks across our universities are involved in are just but money making opportunities.
There has been a debate in the recent past , whether or not ladies in campus should date broke guys. I definitely was for the idea of taking in such guys because remember to me it has always been about love. A quick look into a few of my friends experiences and mine to some extent has however made me rethink about my take on this issue.
These broke campus boyfriends in most if not all cases will crawl into your arms with their bare hands, claim to love you, manipulate you into giving your all to them only to hit you with the headline after a few say weeks, months or even a year for the lucky few, that you were never the right one for them.
I call this taking advantage but sadly most girls only realise this when it’s too late. Does money overpower love in a relationship?
Dating in campus has become the new thing across our universities. just like any other trend, campus students have embraced it all in the name of ‘love.’ ‘Couple goals’, a common term used to refer to thriving relationships in campus, has seen most of the students put in their best in an attempt to maintain their relationships and become that envied pair.
The question however, is whether dating in campus is all about love or lust. I have seen ladies move in with their campus boyfriends just to play wives to young men who have nothing to offer in return. I firmly believe that campus relationships are just about satisfying sexual desires of these young and energetic folks. Most campus couples do not really understand the concept of love except for the regular sleepovers during the weekends which according to them is the proof of love.
The good news however, is that some relationships built in campus have produced perfect families that are admired by many. Whether built on love or lust, dating in campus is a personal decision that comes with a lot of responsibilities. Remember to make wise decisions, always.